不,孩子们,我'm Not Always Fair!

As my children enter 那 delightful stage where they fight over all sorts of random little things, the time also comes when I have to ponder issues of what’s 公平. Kids are great at pointing out when things are unfair.

cookies and 公平ness

另一方面,我不’不想超标。我仍然记得小时候不喜欢祖母的经历’的巧克力曲奇,因为她计算出每个巧克力曲奇的数量,然后将它们戳在上面。她就是这样处理孩子的,他们争论谁的饼干中巧克力块含量最高。

那’s just not me.

我更多地奉行让一切随着时间的流逝而平衡的理念。我赢了’不要说我的孩子总是对这个主意感到高兴,但是自从“that’s not 公平” I can point out another time when 那 child got the best of the deal, my 孩子们 have a bit of trouble arguing 那 one with me.

They do try sometimes, of course. My oldest is particularly good at trying to come up with more reasons why things should go her way. Honestly, 那 pleases me. I want my 孩子们 able to stand up for themselves. She may or may not sway me, but she’尝试(有时非常)。

说真的,我不’t believe you need to treat your 孩子们 perfectly equally. They do need to be treated 公平ly, but from a grown up perspective more so than from their own. You don’不想建立怨恨,但你不’不想让您的孩子确定’s 公平 all of the time either.

有时由于年龄的差异,事情似乎对孩子不公平。这是双向的。我儿子发疯了,因为他姐姐年纪大了,可以做一些他可以做的事情’t。当我的女儿的责任减少时,我的女儿就会生气。这对他们每个人似乎都是不公平的,但正如任何父母所知,您可以’不要让孩子做不适合他们年龄的事情。

我也只是鼓励他们自己解决问题。一世’ll start them on the path to a 公平 solution, sure, and make sure my daughter doesn’并没有充分利用她的美好时光,但是’s not impossible to teach most 孩子们 to figure out 公平 solutions together.

I hope 那 this way my 孩子们 will grow up understanding 那 not everything in life will go their way, but they can keep trying. Children should steadily be encouraged to be more independent, so they aren’t expecting their parents to solve every problem 那 comes their way.

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  1. 已验证 说:

    我100%同意。它’尝试并始终坚持是一个巨大的错误“fair”。我爱他们两个,我尊重他们两个,我照顾他们的需求。我没有兴趣玩他们的“fairness”游戏,尤其是从小’ definition of 公平 seems to be very different, and a lot less flexible, than grownups’.

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